Threesomes, Swinging and Kink: Navigating the London Sex Scene and Finding Utopia
These are the shadows of things that have been- that they are what they are, do not blame me ~Ghost of Christmas Past, The Muppets' Christmas Carol What is a bad Christmas gift on the kink scene? A marabou trimmed red mankini? A latex corset six sizes too big? Unfortunately there can be far worse… Continue reading Xmas on the kink scene: the unwanted gift
Within the first 3 questions I usually get asked, there is one that always comes up: Are you single?
there's a risk of demonizing certain kinds of porn and certain people, making wide generalizations and assumptions about the whole industry and the ethics of it, when really it's pretty complicated and diverse. But as a consumer, 'pay for your porn' is the most important thing.
Sometimes when making something new, it is me that feels like the baby duckling. Someone (who I consider to be generally rather clever) has suggested I make a YouTube channel to go along with the blog. Being a child of dial-up internet days, I've used YouTube rather a lot as a viewer, but not as… Continue reading Libertine YouTube Community
preview the ebook Unicorns and How to Hunt Them, guidance on the swinger scene, threesomes and unicorn hunting
So in the rest of what's left of 2018 I'll be working on bringing out the paperback. I want it to have a little something extra for you! As well as working with a wonderful illustrator, I'd like to give you some extra, previously unreleased content. In fact, I'd like to grant some wishes. I… Continue reading Paperback unicorns and FREE ebook
Any place that markets itself as a centre of personal wish fulfilment is going to draw in people who want something for themselves. The more they are paying, the higher the hurdles to enter, the greater their expectations of achieving their goals are.
'An older woman': Leopard print, red stilettos and a voracious sexual appetite manifest in the psyche. Why is there such stigma attached to an age gap?
I meet some wonderful people on my adventures down the rabbit hole. This morning, I had breakfast with a male porn actor. Far from what you might be imagining, we were fully clothed and talking politics and prejudice in the sex industry. I'd invite you to follow the link: https://www.opendemocracy.net/uk/jonathan-shamir/race-porn-and-education-will-uk-s-2020-sex-education-update-rise-to-challenge Which is highly relevant and… Continue reading Breakfast with a porn star
Toying with the notion of writing a very controversial post.
Shall I?
One of the most wonderful things about a big city, and London in particular, is the general anonymity. Though the swing scene and kink scene seems such a small, incestuous world that the same people pop up over and over, you can stroll through most streets secure in the knowledge that no a soul knows… Continue reading The woman behind the mask
I'm looking to do research on shibari, rope play and tying. If you live close to London and you have expertise, particularly as a rigger, but also as a rope bunny, or a strong interest, please message me as I would like to talk to you for this blog Xx
We look in the mirror after our world is shaken. We see a cracked, broken thing stare back. Unrecognisable. Lost. Altered. Unfixable.
I recently made an Instagram account for this blog, as part of my incredibly gradual takeover of social media (I doubt Zuckerberg and the Kardashians are worried). It seemed like a fun way to make small, quick and silly posts, find some new readers and participate in a 3 second, highly visual culture. There are… Continue reading ‘Hi, I followed you from Tinder. Want to meet?’ -does flirting on Instagram work?
As a writer I'm often frustrated by the inability of the English language to provide simple gender non-specific pronouns that flow nicely in narrative and include everyone, instead falling back on the vague yet grammatically incorrect 'they'. My primary school English teacher would turn in her grave. 'They,' She shouts in my mind each time,… Continue reading The Pronoun Paradox: limitations of language in a non binary world
This is the work of the unmannerly ghost, snatching them away just as things looked set to get good between you. This foul, supernatural fiend can appear at any time, though usually, it's a demon of the early stages.
Halloween is nearly upon us, and what better time to talk about zombies? Zombies and demons. Zombies and demons and how we transform into monsters. When your ex pops back up on the scene, it's always going to be a kick in the teeth. So how do you avoid pissing on each other's shoes? There… Continue reading Ex on the scene: turf wars and brittle smiles
Do you host a swing or kink event you want reviewed on Unicornhunting.blog?
Hangin’ rope https://astraysjournal.wordpress.com/2018/09/07/hangin-rope/ — Read on astraysjournal.wordpress.com/2018/09/07/hangin-rope/ Written by a beautiful friend of mine about her spiritual entry into the world of shibari rope tying
The Future Parties rules are simple, and work really well: Absolutely everything requires explicit consent. Never interrupt a 'scene'. Don't behave like a knob.
Today, I have been having fun. Today I have been posting tips and hacks for sex party hosting to instagram and Pinterest
Clearly, The Handmaid's Tale has absolutely nothing to do with the swing scene and unicorn hunting. Absolutely not. In fact, let's take a look at just how different being a Unicorn is from being a Handmaid...
My friend came to lose her LB virginity with our group on the Friday, and as she walked in she said 'I love it already!'
There was a subtle exotic perfume in the foyer, white feathered lampshades and a certain promise of sensual exploits to be had beyond the next door.
Well, my baby ducklings, the Kindle version of the book is live from today and all ready for you to read! Buy on Kindle or read free on Kindle unlimited, http://bit.ly/UnicornHunt Illustrated paperback due in November xxx
Guest blog by Naughty Nick: My only negative experiences in this lifestyle have been with couples, male and female; these have been so bizarre and harrowing that I literally refuse to entertain the idea of a meet with a couple. The simple MMF is not so simple at all and is an emotional bundle of… Continue reading MMF Misadventures of Naughty Nick
A no nonsense guide on how to bag the elusive spare F (aka unicorn, aka hot single bisexual female) for your fantasy threesome and hunt solo or in pairs for the highest success rate.
One has to question his motivation in fucking anything that moves. Low self esteem? Something to prove? Pathological dissociation? Is it directed at devaluing you personally?
your partner(s) are getting down to business, clothing coming off and sex fantasies all ready to happen.
Then, looming in from the shadows comes 'that guy'. He's staring silently, looking like a supervillain's henchman, or smiling maniacally, all alone. He's standing a little too close for comfort, cock in hand, stroking himself off to your frolics.
So, you want to make a couples profile. And why not? Declare your intentions, do some universal ordering, and bag your goal, right?
Something new is coming from Lost Bajan... from blog writer Alice Hunter... your guide to landing the perfect threesome, like a boss! UNICORNS AND HOW TO HUNT THEM. Coming to Amazon Kindle August 09
I had the privilege tonight to see the beautiful and compelling Sabrina Chap play live at the amazing Bar Wotever in Vauxhall. Have you ever heard a song and felt like it should be the opening to your movie? Here's one for you, my lovely libertine ladies. What would be the soundtrack to the current… Continue reading Soundtrack to your life?
In an age of new female sexual liberation, are women taking back their feminine power in their own eyes, and the eyes of men? Or was granny onto something all along- that when you explore your sexuality as a woman, you will be judged for it by the opposite sex?
The stable and the freezer: new terms of modern dating everyone should be aware of
to actively seek out a polyamorous unicorn right from the start, to love and cuddle and have that extra spicy excitement with from time to time? Someone to bring into your relationship, a lovely extra addition to that which you already have?
Trying to mix the swing/poly world with vanilla people may have always been a bad idea. We made a joint profile on Tinder, for what one might imagine would be a fairly popular idea (BOGOF girlfriends? Instant threesome?). Unfortunately, nobody seems to understand it. Given the profile word limit, it's hard to be any more… Continue reading Too good to be true? Tinder doesn’t get poly
Hosting is by no means a compulsory part of your evolution as a libertine or swinger, however it does often come up as an idea in the early to mid stages of your development. With these issues in mind, you may be able to pull off a truly stunning event
I'm getting ready to wrap this up with the final few chapters and go to print. If you have a story to share or an angle you are wishing this tome would cover, speak now and be a part of it. The best part of anything ever was to be part of a greater whole.… Continue reading Granting wishes
Couples and single guys, please note the calibre of your competition.
*Some have been recreated, but the conversations are all real, and are from myself and single girls I know personally.
Threesomes: how to ask your partner? Basic approaches to use
Interview with a BDSM & sex unicorn. Insight on swinging, approaches, pickup and how to catch one.
Following the Feeld review, I've started doing reviews of the different apps with regards to MFF potential. No such enterprise could be complete without FABS. To be fair, it's not my first crack at this app. I set up a new profile at midnight on this fine Monday, listing myself as a single female and… Continue reading Fab Swingers app as a single female (extract)
Dating apps have come a long way. For every niche interest, there seems to be one. Or ten. A few days ago, I joined Feeld as a single female. Lest you think I was performing some sort of seductive trickery, allow me to clarify. My profile picture was an overexposed silhouette of my face with… Continue reading Feeld as a single female (extract)
Having a very strong appreciation of her, and not thinking of her just as a fantasy for your relationship, is really what is important in ultimately meeting and finding someone. We just now speak to people, find about about them and then see if it goes anywhere.
We just find more and more single girls approach us and in normal settings - not just sex parties. I would say most weekends a girl approaches us with the intention of some mischief. My other half is very striking though, she is 6 foot - 6'4 or 6'5 in heels. When we are out we are clearly having a good time. I think that's the main attraction.
Do you feel sex parties and swinging fit in with feminist ideals? Totally. It's about what I want to do on equal terms with men. I feel sexually equal at sex parties - I don't have to pretend to be the stereotype of a girl who is 'hard to get' or is 'prey' for a man. Do you think you are perceived differently from 'vanilla' women? Yes- I think men on the scene would not consider me as a girlfriend as I am too equal sexually. Men don't want that in a partner usually. There is a double standard, that's for sure.
the smug bio. Yet I cannot tell you the ultimate answer without taking you through a bit of my journey, so I will skip the boring bits and be sure to include lots of sex and useful advice for you.
This really depends on the people - I have no favourite, couples, three singles, friends, whatever..... it is all good if everyone knows what their role is and communicates what they want - and being a filthy minx or tomcat helps too! People who give in and let the sensation and experience take over and stop worrying about how they look, or what the other one is up to.
What kills the sex unicorns off? What is the touch of their horn that brings them death and destroys their magic?
Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective. It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest. This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product. It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of. Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.
If you rush things; if you make your lust for sex a thing that is to be feared, that is not controllable, your unicorns will flee from you. Be like the old bull, not like the Red Bull. Take your time. Build their trust. Walk down the hill slowly, and fuck them all.
Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.
How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple. Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls?
Yes, definitely. They see it more as shopping.
Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well. I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now. I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.
As a single guy trying to navigate the scene, it's tricky getting a woman to take you seriously and separate you from the immediate dick pic brigade. It's hard enough trying to snare a unicorn without immediate assumptions about what type of guy you are but it obviously happens.
There should be no power in a threesome. It should be for mutual pleasure based on equality.
Well I've had foursomes, just never the fabled threesome, believed to be a myth once upon a time. Just attending fetish events have created an honesty among partners that I've never experienced before. It's okay to say "I'd like to fuck her," something people wouldn't have dreamt of saying to previous partners. It then becomes… Continue reading Think Pink (extract)
Being a single bisexual woman in the scene of swinging, I have had many experiences with couples. A few great experiences and a few that have left me cautious of couples.
Lucky Karl', we might say. In this account, it is not Karl, but what we might call a 'female primary', who has arranged the scenario. Though he describes her in an unconventional term in terms of classic heterosexual relationships as not being his wife or girlfriend, she and he appear to have the primary bond out of the three interactions that exist in the MFF scenario. What has most likely made it easier to achieve this goal, however, is the pre-existing bond she had with her female friend
A no nonsense guide on how to bag the elusive spare F (aka unicorn, aka hot single bisexual female) for your fantasy threesome and hunt solo or in pairs for the highest success rate.
