These are the shadows of things that have been- that they are what they are, do not blame me ~Ghost of Christmas Past, The Muppets' Christmas Carol What is a bad Christmas gift on the kink scene? A marabou trimmed red mankini? A latex corset six sizes too big? Unfortunately there can be far worse… Continue reading Xmas on the kink scene: the unwanted gift
Sometimes when making something new, it is me that feels like the baby duckling. Someone (who I consider to be generally rather clever) has suggested I make a YouTube channel to go along with the blog. Being a child of dial-up internet days, I've used YouTube rather a lot as a viewer, but not as… Continue reading Libertine YouTube Community
So in the rest of what's left of 2018 I'll be working on bringing out the paperback. I want it to have a little something extra for you! As well as working with a wonderful illustrator, I'd like to give you some extra, previously unreleased content. In fact, I'd like to grant some wishes. I… Continue reading Paperback unicorns and FREE ebook
I meet some wonderful people on my adventures down the rabbit hole. This morning, I had breakfast with a male porn actor. Far from what you might be imagining, we were fully clothed and talking politics and prejudice in the sex industry. I'd invite you to follow the link: https://www.opendemocracy.net/uk/jonathan-shamir/race-porn-and-education-will-uk-s-2020-sex-education-update-rise-to-challenge Which is highly relevant and… Continue reading Breakfast with a porn star
One of the most wonderful things about a big city, and London in particular, is the general anonymity. Though the swing scene and kink scene seems such a small, incestuous world that the same people pop up over and over, you can stroll through most streets secure in the knowledge that no a soul knows… Continue reading The woman behind the mask
As a writer I'm often frustrated by the inability of the English language to provide simple gender non-specific pronouns that flow nicely in narrative and include everyone, instead falling back on the vague yet grammatically incorrect 'they'. My primary school English teacher would turn in her grave. 'They,' She shouts in my mind each time,… Continue reading The Pronoun Paradox: limitations of language in a non binary world
Halloween is nearly upon us, and what better time to talk about zombies? Zombies and demons. Zombies and demons and how we transform into monsters. When your ex pops back up on the scene, it's always going to be a kick in the teeth. So how do you avoid pissing on each other's shoes? There… Continue reading Ex on the scene: turf wars and brittle smiles
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Hangin’ rope https://astraysjournal.wordpress.com/2018/09/07/hangin-rope/ — Read on astraysjournal.wordpress.com/2018/09/07/hangin-rope/ Written by a beautiful friend of mine about her spiritual entry into the world of shibari rope tying
Well, my baby ducklings, the Kindle version of the book is live from today and all ready for you to read! Buy on Kindle or read free on Kindle unlimited, http://bit.ly/UnicornHunt Illustrated paperback due in November xxx
Guest blog by Naughty Nick: My only negative experiences in this lifestyle have been with couples, male and female; these have been so bizarre and harrowing that I literally refuse to entertain the idea of a meet with a couple. The simple MMF is not so simple at all and is an emotional bundle of… Continue reading MMF Misadventures of Naughty Nick
your partner(s) are getting down to business, clothing coming off and sex fantasies all ready to happen.
Then, looming in from the shadows comes 'that guy'. He's staring silently, looking like a supervillain's henchman, or smiling maniacally, all alone. He's standing a little too close for comfort, cock in hand, stroking himself off to your frolics.
Something new is coming from Lost Bajan... from blog writer Alice Hunter... your guide to landing the perfect threesome, like a boss! UNICORNS AND HOW TO HUNT THEM. Coming to Amazon Kindle August 09
I had the privilege tonight to see the beautiful and compelling Sabrina Chap play live at the amazing Bar Wotever in Vauxhall. Have you ever heard a song and felt like it should be the opening to your movie? Here's one for you, my lovely libertine ladies. What would be the soundtrack to the current… Continue reading Soundtrack to your life?
to actively seek out a polyamorous unicorn right from the start, to love and cuddle and have that extra spicy excitement with from time to time? Someone to bring into your relationship, a lovely extra addition to that which you already have?
Trying to mix the swing/poly world with vanilla people may have always been a bad idea. We made a joint profile on Tinder, for what one might imagine would be a fairly popular idea (BOGOF girlfriends? Instant threesome?). Unfortunately, nobody seems to understand it. Given the profile word limit, it's hard to be any more… Continue reading Too good to be true? Tinder doesn’t get poly
I'm getting ready to wrap this up with the final few chapters and go to print. If you have a story to share or an angle you are wishing this tome would cover, speak now and be a part of it. The best part of anything ever was to be part of a greater whole.… Continue reading Granting wishes
Following the Feeld review, I've started doing reviews of the different apps with regards to MFF potential. No such enterprise could be complete without FABS. To be fair, it's not my first crack at this app. I set up a new profile at midnight on this fine Monday, listing myself as a single female and… Continue reading Fab Swingers app as a single female (extract)
Dating apps have come a long way. For every niche interest, there seems to be one. Or ten. A few days ago, I joined Feeld as a single female. Lest you think I was performing some sort of seductive trickery, allow me to clarify. My profile picture was an overexposed silhouette of my face with… Continue reading Feeld as a single female (extract)
We just find more and more single girls approach us and in normal settings - not just sex parties. I would say most weekends a girl approaches us with the intention of some mischief. My other half is very striking though, she is 6 foot - 6'4 or 6'5 in heels. When we are out we are clearly having a good time. I think that's the main attraction.
Do you feel sex parties and swinging fit in with feminist ideals? Totally. It's about what I want to do on equal terms with men. I feel sexually equal at sex parties - I don't have to pretend to be the stereotype of a girl who is 'hard to get' or is 'prey' for a man. Do you think you are perceived differently from 'vanilla' women? Yes- I think men on the scene would not consider me as a girlfriend as I am too equal sexually. Men don't want that in a partner usually. There is a double standard, that's for sure.
This really depends on the people - I have no favourite, couples, three singles, friends, whatever..... it is all good if everyone knows what their role is and communicates what they want - and being a filthy minx or tomcat helps too! People who give in and let the sensation and experience take over and stop worrying about how they look, or what the other one is up to.
Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective. It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest. This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product. It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of. Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.
Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.
How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple. Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls?
Yes, definitely. They see it more as shopping.
Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well. I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now. I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.
Well I've had foursomes, just never the fabled threesome, believed to be a myth once upon a time. Just attending fetish events have created an honesty among partners that I've never experienced before. It's okay to say "I'd like to fuck her," something people wouldn't have dreamt of saying to previous partners. It then becomes… Continue reading Think Pink (extract)
Lucky Karl', we might say. In this account, it is not Karl, but what we might call a 'female primary', who has arranged the scenario. Though he describes her in an unconventional term in terms of classic heterosexual relationships as not being his wife or girlfriend, she and he appear to have the primary bond out of the three interactions that exist in the MFF scenario. What has most likely made it easier to achieve this goal, however, is the pre-existing bond she had with her female friend