M vs F : Are sexually liberated women empowered or stigmatized?

In an age of new female sexual liberation, are women taking back their feminine power in their own eyes, and the eyes of men?  Or was granny onto something all along- that when you explore your sexuality as a woman, you will be judged for it by the opposite sex?

The stable and the freezer: new terms of modern dating everyone should be aware of

The stable and the freezer: new terms of modern dating everyone should be aware of

Unicorn interviews 6: The Poly Unicorn (extract)

to actively seek out a polyamorous unicorn right from the start, to love and cuddle and have that extra spicy excitement with from time to time?  Someone to bring into your relationship, a lovely extra addition to that which you already have?

Too good to be true? Tinder doesn’t get poly

Trying to mix the swing/poly world with vanilla people may have always been a bad idea. We made a joint profile on Tinder, for what one might imagine would be a fairly popular idea (BOGOF girlfriends? Instant threesome?). Unfortunately, nobody seems to understand it. Given the profile word limit, it's hard to be any more… Continue reading Too good to be true? Tinder doesn’t get poly

Blog to book

Organising your own party (extract)

Hosting is by no means a compulsory part of your evolution as a libertine or swinger, however it does often come up as an idea in the early to mid stages of your development.  With these issues in mind, you may be able to pull off a truly stunning event

Granting wishes

I'm getting ready to wrap this up with the final few chapters and go to print. If you have a story to share or an angle you are wishing this tome would cover, speak now and be a part of it. The best part of anything ever was to be part of a greater whole.… Continue reading Granting wishes

Really bad approaches

Couples and single guys, please note the calibre of your competition. *Some have been recreated, but the conversations are all real, and are from myself and single girls I know personally.

Getting your partner to agree to a threesome (extract)

Threesomes: how to ask your partner? Basic approaches to use

Unicorn interviews 5: The BDSM unicorn (extract)

Interview with a BDSM & sex unicorn. Insight on swinging, approaches, pickup and how to catch one.

Fab Swingers app as a single female (extract)

Following the Feeld review, I've started doing reviews of the different apps with regards to MFF potential.  No such enterprise could be complete without FABS.  To be fair, it's not my first crack at this app.  I set up a new profile at midnight on this fine Monday, listing myself as a single female and… Continue reading Fab Swingers app as a single female (extract)

Feeld as a single female (extract)

Dating apps have come a long way.  For every niche interest, there seems to be one.  Or ten.  A few days ago, I joined Feeld as a single female.  Lest you think I was performing some sort of seductive trickery, allow me to clarify.  My profile picture was an overexposed silhouette of my face with… Continue reading Feeld as a single female (extract)

Metamorphosis isn’t just for unicorns (Extract)

Having a very strong appreciation of her, and not thinking of her just as a fantasy for your relationship, is really what is important in ultimately meeting and finding someone.  We just now speak to people, find about about them and then see if it goes anywhere.

The sparkle to draw the unicorns in (extract)

We just find more and more single girls approach us and in normal settings - not just sex parties.  I would say most weekends a girl approaches us with the intention of some mischief.  My other half is very striking though, she is 6 foot - 6'4 or 6'5 in heels.  When we are out we are clearly having a good time.  I think that's the main attraction.

Unicorn interviews 4 (extract)

Do you feel sex parties and swinging fit in with feminist ideals? Totally.  It's about what I want to do on equal terms with men.  I feel sexually equal at sex parties - I don't have to pretend to be the stereotype of a girl who is 'hard to get' or is 'prey' for a man. Do you think you are perceived differently from 'vanilla' women? Yes- I think men on the scene would not consider me as a girlfriend as I am too equal sexually. Men don't want that in a partner usually.  There is a double standard, that's for sure.

Sheep turned wolf turned shepherd My story: how you know I’m not talking out of my ass. (extract)

the smug bio. Yet I cannot tell you the ultimate answer without taking you through a bit of my journey, so I will skip the boring bits and be sure to include lots of sex and useful advice for you.

Unicorn interviews 3 (extract)

This really depends on the people - I have no favourite, couples, three singles, friends, whatever..... it is all good if everyone knows what their role is and communicates what they want - and being a filthy minx or tomcat helps too! People who give in and let the sensation and experience take over and stop worrying about how they look, or what the other one is up to. 

Tainted horn and bareback heart: who is exterminating the unicorns? (full chapter)

What kills the sex unicorns off?  What is the touch of their horn that brings them death and destroys their magic?

The silver bullet: How to fool a unicorn (extract)

Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective.  It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest.  This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product.  It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of.  Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.

The Unicorn and the Red Bull (extract)

If you rush things; if you make your lust for sex a thing that is to be feared, that is not controllable, your unicorns will flee from you.  Be like the old bull, not like the Red Bull. Take your time.  Build their trust.  Walk down the hill slowly, and fuck them all.

Nothing but the horn: Unicorn stereotyping (extract)

Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.

Unicorn interviews: 2 (extract)

How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple.  Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls? Yes, definitely.  They see it more as shopping.

Unicorn Interviews: 1 (extract)

Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well.  I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now.  I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.

Hunting solo – single men and the MFF threesome (extract)

As a single guy trying to navigate the scene, it's tricky getting a woman to take you seriously and separate you from the immediate dick pic brigade.  It's hard enough trying to snare a unicorn without immediate assumptions about what type of guy you are but it obviously happens.

Unicorn Utopia (extract)

There should be no power in a threesome.  It should be for mutual pleasure based on equality.