In an age of new female sexual liberation, are women taking back their feminine power in their own eyes, and the eyes of men? Or was granny onto something all along- that when you explore your sexuality as a woman, you will be judged for it by the opposite sex?
to actively seek out a polyamorous unicorn right from the start, to love and cuddle and have that extra spicy excitement with from time to time? Someone to bring into your relationship, a lovely extra addition to that which you already have?
Trying to mix the swing/poly world with vanilla people may have always been a bad idea. We made a joint profile on Tinder, for what one might imagine would be a fairly popular idea (BOGOF girlfriends? Instant threesome?). Unfortunately, nobody seems to understand it. Given the profile word limit, it's hard to be any more… Continue reading Too good to be true? Tinder doesn’t get poly
I'm getting ready to wrap this up with the final few chapters and go to print. If you have a story to share or an angle you are wishing this tome would cover, speak now and be a part of it. The best part of anything ever was to be part of a greater whole.… Continue reading Granting wishes
Following the Feeld review, I've started doing reviews of the different apps with regards to MFF potential. No such enterprise could be complete without FABS. To be fair, it's not my first crack at this app. I set up a new profile at midnight on this fine Monday, listing myself as a single female and… Continue reading Fab Swingers app as a single female (extract)
Dating apps have come a long way. For every niche interest, there seems to be one. Or ten. A few days ago, I joined Feeld as a single female. Lest you think I was performing some sort of seductive trickery, allow me to clarify. My profile picture was an overexposed silhouette of my face with… Continue reading Feeld as a single female (extract)
We just find more and more single girls approach us and in normal settings - not just sex parties. I would say most weekends a girl approaches us with the intention of some mischief. My other half is very striking though, she is 6 foot - 6'4 or 6'5 in heels. When we are out we are clearly having a good time. I think that's the main attraction.
Do you feel sex parties and swinging fit in with feminist ideals? Totally. It's about what I want to do on equal terms with men. I feel sexually equal at sex parties - I don't have to pretend to be the stereotype of a girl who is 'hard to get' or is 'prey' for a man. Do you think you are perceived differently from 'vanilla' women? Yes- I think men on the scene would not consider me as a girlfriend as I am too equal sexually. Men don't want that in a partner usually. There is a double standard, that's for sure.
This really depends on the people - I have no favourite, couples, three singles, friends, whatever..... it is all good if everyone knows what their role is and communicates what they want - and being a filthy minx or tomcat helps too! People who give in and let the sensation and experience take over and stop worrying about how they look, or what the other one is up to.
Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective. It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest. This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product. It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of. Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.
Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.
How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple. Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls? Yes, definitely. They see it more as shopping.
Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well. I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now. I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.