Having been to one of Secrets‘ fire play workshops out at the Gatwick Dungeon before, I came with high expectations and was not disappointed. Fire play, wax play, safety instruction and taking you from the basics to some advanced tips and ideas, with opportunity to practice, experience the fire sensation and mix and mingle with a wonderful bunch of experienced, friendly and inclusive kinksters at the magical Centaur Studios.
Who teaches fire play?
Secrets is a truly wonderful presenter- warm, friendly and hilarious, with a gentle pace and dark sense of humour that makes everyone feel right at home. She’s also an incredibly experienced BDSM top and fire play professional who loves her craft. If you get the chance to see her at an event and want to feel the wonderful, relaxing, instantly sub-space effect of fire play for yourself, be sure to get in early. Once you see it done, everyone wants a go.
Where is the fire play workshop?
This workshop was held at Centaur Studios, a fabulous, ethereal and slightly trippy space in East London, with mood lighting, crazy murals and well equipped dungeon room, as well as every facility to recover you might need, including bathrooms, shower and kitchen to unwind. The decor at Centaur studios is instant ‘mood’. It’s a sort of Dante’s inferno, fae trap of luxury, interesting things and temptation. But never did a hellscape look so enticing! You can’t help but be instantly transported into a vibe of excitement.
Who goes to the fire play workshop?
The crowd were a mix of familiar faces and new people – some experienced kinksters and others looking to start their journey the right way- by learning! Everyone was really friendly, welcoming and inclusive. We had some great chats before, after and in between the sessions, and everyone had a happy vibe. Fire play is like that – it attracts responsible kinksters who want to be a part of a community, connect with others and build their skills to perform a good job.
Joining the crew today was Secret’s new protege, the beautiful Alma Groin. She is also a professional fire play top, and someone to look out for on the scene.
Why learn fire play?
Despite the vanilla perception of BDSM and kink being all about inflicting pain, fire play is the very embodiment of responsible topping, creating a safe and sensory experience for their bottom or submissive, and demonstrating prowess, expertise and commitment to the craft that a simple spanking does not portray.
Our bodies detect different sensations- whether we see them as pain or fear is largely based on our expectations. Because fire play requires so much trust, having it performed on you by such an experienced professional practitioner means you can instantly slide into sub space, enjoying sensation that is novel and exciting yet comforting. It is also an amazing, showy act to watch, with fire wands, flash cotton, burning trails and foam in shapes.
Where can I perform fire play?
Your options to learn, practise and perform fire play at events are quite limited. There are a number of safety considerations, and most venues won’t allow it. As an extremely experienced professional, Secrets performs at a few events. The best place to learn and practise is at one of the workshops.
If you are looking to make your own event really special, contact Secrets to see how you can arrange for her to come perform and give your guests an amazing new experience.
What do I wear and bring?
Although there were a fair proportion of the crowd in BDSM wear or lingerie, there was no required dress code. Bringing drinks and snacks is allowed, and there is a Sainsbury’s a few doors down to pick up refreshments. An open mind and a willingness to listen and learn with enthusiasm were all that was needed.
In addition to the instruction on safety, technique and where to buy the equipment, there were a range of incredible Soy candles on sale. Anyone who wants to try wax play? Do NOT just grab a regular candle! Soy candles burn at a lower temperature so you do not maim your consenting play partner, come in beautiful colours, glow under UV light and were in skull shapes, pumpkins, pouring jugs and regular candle shapes to give you options.
The prices were also unbelievable. I got 3 UV reactive pumpkin candles for £7, and had to keep checking it wasn’t a mistake. This is one of the benefits of attending a workshop by someone who truly loves their craft- they tend to under-price everything because it is done with love.
Is this the event for you?
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GUESTS ARE APPROACHABLE – THE VIBE IS SUPER-FRIENDLY AND THERE ARE PLENTY OF PLACES AND OPPORTUNITY TO MIX AND MINGLE BETWEEN the sessons, before after and during demosntrations and one-to-one teaching
ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE – everyone looks amazing under red lighting! there were folks of different shapes, sizes and genders all loking fantastic
SWINGING FRIENDLY (PROVISION, ATTITUDES) – NOT A sex PARTY, AND NOT SPECIFICALLY AIMED AT SWINGERS, BUT NOT ANTI-SWINGER EITHER. MORE OF A POLY AND KINK CROWD. Asexual people completely welcome
KINK FRIENDLY – a kink workshop with opportunity to try performing or receiving fireplay and wax play and meeting kink crowd friends
TRANS-INCLUSIVE – ALL GENDER IDENTITIES COMPLETELY WELCOME. trans people and enbies in attendance and gender identity is a total non-issue for this event. unisex bathrooms, being semi-naked for recieving fire and wax play not an issue. fire play knows no gender!
BODY SHAPE INCLUSIVE – ITS A VERY BODY POSITIVE EVENT, with people of different shapes and sizes dressed up and looking fantastic
AGE INCLUSIVE – YES, OVER 18. BROAD AGE SPREAD, MOST PROBABLY AROUND 30
RACIALLY INCLUSIVE – people of different ethnic identities in attendance, there is no issue with racial differences in this crowd
COUPLES – TICKETS ARE SOLD AS INDIVIDUALS, BUT YOU COULD COME AS A COUPLE
SINGLE WOMEN – AS WITH MOST KINK CROWD EVENTS, A HIGH STANDARD OF DECORUM AND EXEMPLARY BEHAVIOUR IS EXPECTED. PERFECTLY SAFE TO GO AS A SINGLE WOMAN
SINGLE GUYS – SINGLE GUYS WELCOME, NO HIGHER TICKET PRICES OR SPECIAL RESTRICTIONS. RESPECTFUL TYPICAL KINK-RULES BEHAVIOUR IS EXPECTED. not a place to cruise for hook-ups, respect pronouns and expect people to identify as highly specific sexualities
AFFORDABLE AND VALUE FOR MONEY- at £23 this unique event goes on all afternoon. there are no drinks to buy, cloakroom charges or extras, unless you want to swoop in and buy up all the amazing candles
SAFE – THERE’S NO NEED TO CHANGE OR LEAVE YOUR BAG SOMEWHERE, AND THE CROWD WAS VERY SAFE
SPACIOUS – THE ROOM WAS NICELY FULL tough the workshop seating was cushions on the floor. I expect alternative provision could be made for those who could not handle that position (they are good like that) but I didn’t ask
WELL EQUIPPED – multiple rooms, entry lobby, bathrooms, shower room, instructional space with all fire play equipment and wax set up, dungeon space, kitchen area, staff ensuring security and safety on entry and throughout the event. decor and lighting is absolutely hypnotic
DIFFERENTIAL GENDER PRICING- NO
DIFFERENTIAL COUPLES PRICING- NO
ROCK UP LAST MINUTE WITH A FRIEND? – Possibly, if it isn’t sold out
EASY TO GET A MEMBERSHIP? NONE REQUIRED, IT IS NOT A VETTED workshop, though you will be expected to know and follow standard bdsm ettiquette (which is exemplary politeness and consent)
TRANSPORT- THIS EVENT WAS IN hackney, a short walk from the station. Bus and parking possible in the area.
DISABLED ACCESS? – there is step free entry at the back and it is all on one level. The Centaur Studios website states there is not room to fully turn a wheelchair inside the bathroom, so if you are fully wheelchair bound please contact the venue to ensure you have everything you need in place.
*All photos are demonstrating safe sensory play by a professional or under instruction of a professional with all insurance and fire safety regulations in place and permission of the venue and people featured. All persons are over 18 and legally consenting to perform or receive a sensory experience, akin to hot stone massage, as well as to featuring in these photos. No persons were burned or harmed in the production of these photos, which are produced for the purposes of education and information.
*It is strongly recommended that you do not try this at home, and seek professional instruction at this workshop or another highly qualified professional to teach you before attempting any such activity. This website and all affiliated persons and entities do not take any responsibility for any attempts to replicate scenes in images shown. Fire play and wax play should never be attempted before learning all aspects of safety required and ensuring these are in place.
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