Playing games: how to turn a dinner party into a swinger party

It’s long been a running joke that the swing scene is comprised of middle-aged, bored suburban housewives. Though this couldn’t be further from the truth (and what’s wrong with being middle aged anyway?) lockdown has quietened our opportunities to frolic. Yes, we can tend the pampas grass, revamp our boudoir and check out our future prospects online, but ultimately it has been a quiet time for the first half of the year.

Our skills and talents have been curved into the productive. We dream of better days ahead and examine our stumbling blocks. I’ve thought of a big stumbling block.

Party hosting is a wonderful art. It’s great fun, gives one a sense of power, control, kudos and the opportunity to give something back to the people you value, all at once. It is a complex skill, aspects of which I’ve been examining one by one in the posts. The ambiance, the space, finding the right people, setting the mood…

Two men and two women sit around awkwardly

One of the most overlooked aspects is moving the vibe from social chit chat to the action everyone came there for. Throwing people in a room and giving them alcohol really isn’t the best icebreaker, and even if it is part of the event, it certainly shouldn’t be your only icebreaker.

To move people (who may or may not know each other) in an unfamiliar environment, where they are keen to impress and not cause problems, from the social niceties of small talk and slight flirtation into a hands-on scenario, where they are confident to ask, make a move and play with others, requires some creative planning.

Two women in white t shirts embrace

There are many ways to do this, which I will address in another post in this party hosting series, but a great one is to play a game. These can be as elaborate and sexual as you wish, silly, funny, steamy, mundane. Yet they get people touching and interacting with an element of challenge that breaks them out of their own self-focus and insecurity.

I’ve tried many games at events in the past. Some work better than others. It occurred to me that what the world needs (along with so many other things) is a fun, silly game for swingers and kinksters to play at the start of events which will tickle their fancy. it should be fun. Funny. Silly. Focussed on the swinger world and get them intermingling in ways they might not normally.

Pineapples in shades

With this in mind, I’m working on creating a special game. There are cards. There are actions to perform. There is a level of irreverent satirical mischief you’ve come to know and love (or loathe) me for.

For this game, I need to make character cards for the players to interact with as they attend strangely familiar sounding yet clearly fictional events. I know a lot of people. But I also need a lot of character cards.

Zmoji of a woman in a bikini

I’d therefore like to offer to you, my dear readers, the chance to be a part of this novel swinger game. It can be played while social distancing, can be played with one or more (although it works best at the domestic party events we all look forward to in the future) and is silly and saucy.

If you’d like to be a character card (and this is completely free, as nearly everything I do is) then you just need to send me the following:

1) your avatar. It can be bitmoji, Zmoji, whatever, as long as it’s an image file I can use. You can be a couple or a single on it. Even a polycule if that’s how you normally play

2) your handle. That is, your name, scene name, fake name, profile name or whatever you’d like your character to be called.

3) your approximate location that you live (even country)

4) 4 or more ways that you like to play at swinger or kink events (MMF, full swap, group, BDSM, specific acts, etc). If you include your fetlife or Fabswingers name so I can make you sound authentic, all the better (it won’t be shown on the card)

5) something special or awesome about you that makes you a useful friend to know, is your party trick or is otherwise characteristic of you.

That’s it! Send it to me on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook or however else you’d like to reach me and I’ll draft you a card, send it to you and include it in the prototype of the game. Maybe it will make it to production!

I’ve had a number of people already do this via Instagram, and they were all delighted with what I came up with. In the unlikely event you hate it, I’ll take it out and no harm done.

Character card for the couple who run seinger symbol

Hoping to have this ready for sale and official release for 2021 after some thorough testing 😉

Let’s get busy making this happen!, my lovely libertines!