Hiring an escort for a threesome is a highly personal choice, but there are plenty of couples (and indeed single people) who choose to do so. In some regions this is legal (or legal providing certain criteria are met) and in others it is not. For this post, we will assume you are located in an area where it is perfectly legal.

Why hire an escort for a threesome?

Scrolling the swinger apps and hookup apps can feel a little like browsing Ebay, looking at photos and ‘adding to your basket’. Unfortunately, just as when your chosen items say ‘out of stock’ on Ebay, a lot of these choices don’t match, don’t respond or never arrive for you. This is because the dating and hook-up world is not shopping. The people you want to meet have to want to meet you back.

If you throw in the high number of couples looking to hunt unicorns (have swinger threesomes with single women) and the low number of single women to do this, you are already at a disadvantage. Add to that that it isn’t just a two-way attraction connection, like with regular dating. There needs to be a six way attraction, and the one between you and your partner is the only one that’s established. In addition to the six way attraction between individuals, your unicorn must also be attracted to your dynamic that you have with your partner.

It’s quite possible to think both people are beautiful individually, but elements of jealousy, controlling tendencies, indications of possible drama or doing it just to people-please a partner make most swinger unicorns run a mile.

Sounds like an impossible task, when you think of it that way, doesn’t it? Well, it’s not, and I wrote a beginners book on how to get better at it, but the truth is it does take time, practice and learning to love playing the game rather than focus on the wins. That game is hunting unicorns.

As if all that isn’t enough to deal with, there are even more factors that can make it difficult.

Why you might struggle to get threesomes

-Being inflexible in wanting a one-off hook-up, swinger friendship or polyamorous triad

-Having a mental or physical health condition that means you cannot reliably get to swinger events and socials to meet people

-Being an unfashionable body type, age, size, height or look (these unicorns can be darn shallow when it comes to one-off hook ups- but who can blame them? If all you are offering is a sexual experience, they want to make it their own fantasy too)

-If you and/or your partner want really specific things from your unicorn (age, height, looks, size)

-If you live somewhere remote or highly religious and it’s not easy to get to swinger events

-If you are time-poor, due to a demanding job, family commitments or being away temporarily on work or holiday

-If you really don’t want to learn the social skills of pickup, art of the approach and spend time practicing for many months (or even years, possibly without success)

-If you want to be very much in control of the situation. While it’s great for you and your partner to discuss your boundaries and feelings about swinging and threesomes, giving your prospective unicorn a list of what to wear, how to behave and what they can and cannot do will turn them right off. Unicorns like to feel sexy and empowered in threesomes. If you lay out all these expectations for her to abide by and enact for you, she’s rightly going to feel like she’s doing a job and should be getting paid, because what’s in it for her?

Fortunately, simply accepting this and doing just that is, in fact an option. You can hire an escort to form your first (or any) threesome, completely on your own terms, with your partner. With you selecting someone together, making a simple arrangement, and tailoring the session to your own tastes and rules. For a bit of money.

What are escorts like

There are all sorts of escorts. Many are women. Some are men. There are transgender escorts, non-binary escorts, BDSM-friendly escorts and non-sexual escorts. There are plus-sized, mature, young, enhanced, natural, girl-next door, porn-star and athletic escorts. Hairy, waxed, light, dark, ones who specialize in things like having smelly feet, speaking other languages, singing to you or even just cuddling and stroking your hair.

Somewhere in the world is your dream fantasy escort. They will be pretty up-front about any specialties they perform or special features they have, so make sure your really read the profile and don’t just look at the photos.

A high-class (and that is a terrible phrase, but it’s been around widely for a long time) escort is simply a term used to differentiate the kind of experience you can expect. Escorts, or call-girls, come in different price ranges, see different numbers of clients and often perform completely different services. They will tell you what sort of sessions they are looking to be booked for, and your most suitable choice is likely to be one who performs outcalls, so you can arrange a nice hotel, settle in and get comfortable first, while still feeling calm and in control of the situation if it is unfamiliar.

Choose a nice hotel with plenty of space in the room and a lift that can be accessed without needing to go via the desk in the lobby if possible. Otherwise, the hotel staff will suspect what you are doing. Provided you’ve booked a room for three, they absolutely will not care.

Part 2 for more…