Threesomes, Swinging and Kink: Navigating the London Sex Scene and Finding Utopia
These are the shadows of things that have been- that they are what they are, do not blame me ~Ghost of Christmas Past, The Muppets' Christmas Carol What is a bad Christmas gift on the kink scene? A marabou trimmed red mankini? A latex corset six sizes too big? Unfortunately there can be far worse… Continue reading Xmas on the kink scene: the unwanted gift
Within the first 3 questions I usually get asked, there is one that always comes up: Are you single?
So in the rest of what's left of 2018 I'll be working on bringing out the paperback. I want it to have a little something extra for you! As well as working with a wonderful illustrator, I'd like to give you some extra, previously unreleased content. In fact, I'd like to grant some wishes. I… Continue reading Paperback unicorns and FREE ebook
Any place that markets itself as a centre of personal wish fulfilment is going to draw in people who want something for themselves. The more they are paying, the higher the hurdles to enter, the greater their expectations of achieving their goals are.
I recently made an Instagram account for this blog, as part of my incredibly gradual takeover of social media (I doubt Zuckerberg and the Kardashians are worried). It seemed like a fun way to make small, quick and silly posts, find some new readers and participate in a 3 second, highly visual culture. There are… Continue reading ‘Hi, I followed you from Tinder. Want to meet?’ -does flirting on Instagram work?
Halloween is nearly upon us, and what better time to talk about zombies? Zombies and demons. Zombies and demons and how we transform into monsters. When your ex pops back up on the scene, it's always going to be a kick in the teeth. So how do you avoid pissing on each other's shoes? There… Continue reading Ex on the scene: turf wars and brittle smiles
Hangin’ rope https://astraysjournal.wordpress.com/2018/09/07/hangin-rope/ — Read on astraysjournal.wordpress.com/2018/09/07/hangin-rope/ Written by a beautiful friend of mine about her spiritual entry into the world of shibari rope tying
The stable and the freezer: new terms of modern dating everyone should be aware of
Couples and single guys, please note the calibre of your competition. *Some have been recreated, but the conversations are all real, and are from myself and single girls I know personally.
the smug bio. Yet I cannot tell you the ultimate answer without taking you through a bit of my journey, so I will skip the boring bits and be sure to include lots of sex and useful advice for you.
Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective. It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest. This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product. It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of. Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.
If you rush things; if you make your lust for sex a thing that is to be feared, that is not controllable, your unicorns will flee from you. Be like the old bull, not like the Red Bull. Take your time. Build their trust. Walk down the hill slowly, and fuck them all.
Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.
How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple. Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls? Yes, definitely. They see it more as shopping.
Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well. I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now. I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.
As a single guy trying to navigate the scene, it's tricky getting a woman to take you seriously and separate you from the immediate dick pic brigade. It's hard enough trying to snare a unicorn without immediate assumptions about what type of guy you are but it obviously happens.
There should be no power in a threesome. It should be for mutual pleasure based on equality.
