Threesomes, Swinging and Kink: Navigating the London Sex Scene and Finding Utopia
So in the rest of what's left of 2018 I'll be working on bringing out the paperback. I want it to have a little something extra for you! As well as working with a wonderful illustrator, I'd like to give you some extra, previously unreleased content. In fact, I'd like to grant some wishes. I… Continue reading Paperback unicorns and FREE ebook
Dating apps have come a long way. For every niche interest, there seems to be one. Or ten. A few days ago, I joined Feeld as a single female. Lest you think I was performing some sort of seductive trickery, allow me to clarify. My profile picture was an overexposed silhouette of my face with… Continue reading Feeld as a single female (extract)
Having a very strong appreciation of her, and not thinking of her just as a fantasy for your relationship, is really what is important in ultimately meeting and finding someone. We just now speak to people, find about about them and then see if it goes anywhere.
the smug bio. Yet I cannot tell you the ultimate answer without taking you through a bit of my journey, so I will skip the boring bits and be sure to include lots of sex and useful advice for you.
Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective. It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest. This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product. It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of. Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.
If you rush things; if you make your lust for sex a thing that is to be feared, that is not controllable, your unicorns will flee from you. Be like the old bull, not like the Red Bull. Take your time. Build their trust. Walk down the hill slowly, and fuck them all.
Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.
How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple. Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls? Yes, definitely. They see it more as shopping.
Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well. I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now. I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.
As a single guy trying to navigate the scene, it's tricky getting a woman to take you seriously and separate you from the immediate dick pic brigade. It's hard enough trying to snare a unicorn without immediate assumptions about what type of guy you are but it obviously happens.
There should be no power in a threesome. It should be for mutual pleasure based on equality.
Being a single bisexual woman in the scene of swinging, I have had many experiences with couples. A few great experiences and a few that have left me cautious of couples.
Lucky Karl', we might say. In this account, it is not Karl, but what we might call a 'female primary', who has arranged the scenario. Though he describes her in an unconventional term in terms of classic heterosexual relationships as not being his wife or girlfriend, she and he appear to have the primary bond out of the three interactions that exist in the MFF scenario. What has most likely made it easier to achieve this goal, however, is the pre-existing bond she had with her female friend
