‘Hi, I followed you from Tinder. Want to meet?’ -does flirting on Instagram work?

I recently made an Instagram account for this blog, as part of my incredibly gradual takeover of social media (I doubt Zuckerberg and the Kardashians are worried). It seemed like a fun way to make small, quick and silly posts, find some new readers and participate in a 3 second, highly visual culture. There are… Continue reading ‘Hi, I followed you from Tinder. Want to meet?’ -does flirting on Instagram work?

MMF Misadventures of Naughty Nick

Guest blog by Naughty Nick: My only negative experiences in this lifestyle have been with couples, male and female; these have been so bizarre and harrowing that I literally refuse to entertain the idea of a meet with a couple.  The simple MMF is not so simple at all and is an emotional bundle of… Continue reading MMF Misadventures of Naughty Nick

Unicorn interviews 3 (extract)

This really depends on the people - I have no favourite, couples, three singles, friends, whatever..... it is all good if everyone knows what their role is and communicates what they want - and being a filthy minx or tomcat helps too! People who give in and let the sensation and experience take over and stop worrying about how they look, or what the other one is up to. 

Tainted horn and bareback heart: who is exterminating the unicorns? (full chapter)

What kills the sex unicorns off?  What is the touch of their horn that brings them death and destroys their magic?

The silver bullet: How to fool a unicorn (extract)

Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective.  It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest.  This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product.  It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of.  Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.

The Unicorn and the Red Bull (extract)

If you rush things; if you make your lust for sex a thing that is to be feared, that is not controllable, your unicorns will flee from you.  Be like the old bull, not like the Red Bull. Take your time.  Build their trust.  Walk down the hill slowly, and fuck them all.

Nothing but the horn: Unicorn stereotyping (extract)

Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.

Unicorn interviews: 2 (extract)

How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple.  Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls? Yes, definitely.  They see it more as shopping.

Unicorn Interviews: 1 (extract)

Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well.  I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now.  I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.

Hunting solo – single men and the MFF threesome (extract)

As a single guy trying to navigate the scene, it's tricky getting a woman to take you seriously and separate you from the immediate dick pic brigade.  It's hard enough trying to snare a unicorn without immediate assumptions about what type of guy you are but it obviously happens.