Your strategy for scoring threesomes and capturing the elusive spare female
One has to question his motivation in fucking anything that moves. Low self esteem? Something to prove? Pathological dissociation? Is it directed at devaluing you personally?
your partner(s) are getting down to business, clothing coming off and sex fantasies all ready to happen. Then, looming in from the shadows comes 'that guy'. He's staring silently, looking like a supervillain's henchman, or smiling maniacally, all alone. He's standing a little too close for comfort, cock in hand, stroking himself off to your frolics.
So, you want to make a couples profile. And why not? Declare your intentions, do some universal ordering, and bag your goal, right?
In an age of new female sexual liberation, are women taking back their feminine power in their own eyes, and the eyes of men? Or was granny onto something all along- that when you explore your sexuality as a woman, you will be judged for it by the opposite sex?
The stable and the freezer: new terms of modern dating everyone should be aware of
to actively seek out a polyamorous unicorn right from the start, to love and cuddle and have that extra spicy excitement with from time to time? Someone to bring into your relationship, a lovely extra addition to that which you already have?
Having a very strong appreciation of her, and not thinking of her just as a fantasy for your relationship, is really what is important in ultimately meeting and finding someone. We just now speak to people, find about about them and then see if it goes anywhere.
Do you feel sex parties and swinging fit in with feminist ideals? Totally. It's about what I want to do on equal terms with men. I feel sexually equal at sex parties - I don't have to pretend to be the stereotype of a girl who is 'hard to get' or is 'prey' for a man. Do you think you are perceived differently from 'vanilla' women? Yes- I think men on the scene would not consider me as a girlfriend as I am too equal sexually. Men don't want that in a partner usually. There is a double standard, that's for sure.
the smug bio. Yet I cannot tell you the ultimate answer without taking you through a bit of my journey, so I will skip the boring bits and be sure to include lots of sex and useful advice for you.
This really depends on the people - I have no favourite, couples, three singles, friends, whatever..... it is all good if everyone knows what their role is and communicates what they want - and being a filthy minx or tomcat helps too! People who give in and let the sensation and experience take over and stop worrying about how they look, or what the other one is up to.
What kills the sex unicorns off? What is the touch of their horn that brings them death and destroys their magic?
Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective. It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest. This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product. It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of. Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.
If you rush things; if you make your lust for sex a thing that is to be feared, that is not controllable, your unicorns will flee from you. Be like the old bull, not like the Red Bull. Take your time. Build their trust. Walk down the hill slowly, and fuck them all.
Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.
How do you feel your experiences have changed you from when you first started? I went in blind when I first played with a couple. Now I'm more wary and will stand my ground with what I want. Do you think single men and couples see the scene differently to single girls? Yes, definitely. They see it more as shopping.
Interview with Miss Paradise, 32, open-minded female. Would you describe yourself as a unicorn? I don't know what to call myself. I’m very open, I’m a slow burner as well. I know what I like when I like it, so it could be anything, it could be dominating men, it could be playing with girls, playing with couples, a single guy, it could be having a playmate which is what I’ve got now. I’ve been playing with someone for over a year.
As a single guy trying to navigate the scene, it's tricky getting a woman to take you seriously and separate you from the immediate dick pic brigade. It's hard enough trying to snare a unicorn without immediate assumptions about what type of guy you are but it obviously happens.
There should be no power in a threesome. It should be for mutual pleasure based on equality.
Being a single bisexual woman in the scene of swinging, I have had many experiences with couples. A few great experiences and a few that have left me cautious of couples.
