So, you want to make a couples profile. And why not? Declare your intentions, do some universal ordering, and bag your goal, right?
Of course, you should. Absolutely.
Yet you may want to set yourself apart from the crowd a little.
Just for fun, my lovely ladies and I have created a merged, generic, couples profile, from the hundreds we get approaching us. Let’s play a little game.
See anything familiar?
What we are talking about here, my baby ducklings, is ‘Couple’s privilege‘.
What Couple Privilege Is:
The culturally entrenched priority, and measure of value, given to couples by society, both in public perception of them, and the legal status of them.
https://polysingleish.com/tag/couple-privilege/
And ‘Male privilege‘.
‘The one penis policy is not actually protecting anyone’s feelings.’
https://polypretzels.wordpress.com/2016/03/11/one-penis-policy/
Don’t be like that, my darlings. Be someone individual; be someone spectacular.
xxx
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Written with Lady Rope and Miss Roxette.
The couples profile is indeed a tricky thing to create, see objectively and make work the way you want it. In trying to express personal quality and desirability while ensuring your partner feels secure, you may be mi-selling yourselves. Laying down boundaries and expectations is never an appealing way to start. You need to think about what the single woman you are seeking really wants to here. What she is looking for. What your unicorn is hunting for herself.
To stand out as a good couples’ profile really isn’t that difficult. Yes, there are certainly many of them, but there are so few who tick all the boxes of what the women want.
She wants to be attracted to both of you, in looks and personality
She wants to feel that you are secure in each other, without being do lustily drooling over each other in the profile that she will feel like an outsider.
Your unicorn wants to feel empowered.
Your single swinger women can afford to be very selective, so make sure you have really thought about your couples profile from her perspective, and the kind of evening she will be expecting from you.
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[…] This interview with a happy polyamorous unicorn crosses the bridge between swinging and poly. Swingers and polys rarely mix, despite what people may think. The polys tend to dislike their romantic lives being equated with promiscuous sex, and the swingers are usually about ticking off their sexual goal list, rather than forming relationships with the people. For this reason, the term ‘unicorn hunter‘ is considered fair enough on the swing scene and makes up the majority of the swinger couples you’ll meet. In the world or poly, however, it’s a term of derision. There are a lot of former poly ‘unicorns‘ who will tell you exactly how and why unicorn hunting upsets them so much. It’s also discussed later in the blog, with ‘Couple Profiles: What the single women see‘. […]