There should be no power in a threesome.  It should be for mutual pleasure based on equality.

Sexy couple, 40

It is often the case that the perceptions and motives of a unicorn will shift, depending on where she is in her journey and her experiences so far.  Most guides to obtaining a threesome will focus heavily on discussing limits with your partner, and making sure you are both happy with your plans, have a get-out strategy if one of you finds you are unhappy, etc.  This is, in itself, a difference in power in the relative relationships between the couple and the single girl.  Of course, you will likely discuss what you are and aren’t happy with your unicorn before you get to the bedroom (or sofa, sex party, hot tub, etc), but the difference is that the two of you have already made these rules, and she is expected to either agree to them or to say no.  You are negotiating as a single unit, with her.  She is negotiating alone.

Most unicorns start off believing a threesome is about the quote above.  A free, liberating sexual experience based on mutual enjoyment….

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The Guide Every New Swinger Needs: How to talk to your partner, find unicorns for MFF threesomes, make your couples profile, approach at sex parties and win over single women with charisma

This chapter of Unicorns and How to Hunt Them looks at the difference in expectation vs. reality in threesomes and trying to set them up. Couples often find it really difficult to get single women who unicorn (swing with couples) to meet them, and to close the deal, achieving the MFF threesome goal. The reasons for this are largely in the power balance. Couples’ privilege, the one-penis-policy and the number of couples looking for single women to swing with, versus the number of single women who want to, and the reasons for this are examined in this chapter. Often the seemingly fun and simple goal of a good MFF threesome is much more complex than first imagined. This chapter examines why this is and how to avoid making mistakes in your unicorn hunting expectations.