Any place that markets itself as a centre of personal wish fulfilment is going to draw in people who want something for themselves. The more they are paying, the higher the hurdles to enter, the greater their expectations of achieving their goals are.
Here is where I tell you how to take down the hard to capture unicorn. Executed correctly, it is ruthlessly effective. It is also, in its whole, though not necessarily its parts, very dishonest. This is the strategy for the couple who are all about the hunt. For whom the intellectual and primal challenge are the motivator, rather than necessarily the end product. It is completely unethical in its construction, yet if done right, everyone goes away happier than any other strategy I know of. Sorry, my unicorns, here is where I expose your Achilles' heel.
If you rush things; if you make your lust for sex a thing that is to be feared, that is not controllable, your unicorns will flee from you. Be like the old bull, not like the Red Bull. Take your time. Build their trust. Walk down the hill slowly, and fuck them all.
Everyone's guilty of making assumptions at some time....judgement is human nature, it's a survival tactic...so you can't be too hard on people about it...just put them right when they make an assumption of you, if you care enough to...mostly I don't care enough about other people's opinions of me...the time I care is when I actually care about the person making the assumption.