Sociopathy and the swing scene: a non-narcissist’s guide to self defence against vampires

Any place that markets itself as a centre of personal wish fulfilment is going to draw in people who want something for themselves. The more they are paying, the higher the hurdles to enter, the greater their expectations of achieving their goals are.

Cougar bait: sorry ma’am, does your son have ID? Younger men with older women; why is it taboo?

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'An older woman': Leopard print, red stilettos and a voracious sexual appetite manifest in the psyche. Why is there such stigma attached to an age gap?

Breakfast with a porn star

I meet some wonderful people on my adventures down the rabbit hole. This morning, I had breakfast with a male porn actor. Far from what you might be imagining, we were fully clothed and talking politics and prejudice in the sex industry. I'd invite you to follow the link: https://www.opendemocracy.net/uk/jonathan-shamir/race-porn-and-education-will-uk-s-2020-sex-education-update-rise-to-challenge Which is highly relevant and… Continue reading Breakfast with a porn star

Should I?

Toying with the notion of writing a very controversial post.

Shall I?

The woman behind the mask

One of the most wonderful things about a big city, and London in particular, is the general anonymity. Though the swing scene and kink scene seems such a small, incestuous world that the same people pop up over and over, you can stroll through most streets secure in the knowledge that no a soul knows… Continue reading The woman behind the mask

Ex on the scene: turf wars and brittle smiles

Halloween is nearly upon us, and what better time to talk about zombies? Zombies and demons. Zombies and demons and how we transform into monsters. When your ex pops back up on the scene, it's always going to be a kick in the teeth. So how do you avoid pissing on each other's shoes? There… Continue reading Ex on the scene: turf wars and brittle smiles

Event organiser?

Do you host a swing or kink event you want reviewed on Unicornhunting.blog?

Events review: Friday night at Future Parties as a Single Woman

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The Future Parties rules are simple, and work really well:  Absolutely everything requires explicit consent.  Never interrupt a 'scene'.  Don't behave like a knob.

Sex party hosting tips

Today, I have been having fun. Today I have been posting tips and hacks for sex party hosting to instagram and Pinterest

Sex unicorn or handmaid- Which are you?

Clearly, The Handmaid's Tale has absolutely nothing to do with the swing scene and unicorn hunting.  Absolutely not.  In fact, let's take a look at just how different being a Unicorn is from being a Handmaid...

Events review: Friday night at Le Boudoir as a single lady

My friend came to lose her LB virginity with our group on the Friday, and as she walked in she said 'I love it already!'

There was a subtle exotic perfume in the foyer, white feathered lampshades and a certain promise of sensual exploits to be had beyond the next door. 

MMF Misadventures of Naughty Nick

Guest blog by Naughty Nick: My only negative experiences in this lifestyle have been with couples, male and female; these have been so bizarre and harrowing that I literally refuse to entertain the idea of a meet with a couple.  The simple MMF is not so simple at all and is an emotional bundle of… Continue reading MMF Misadventures of Naughty Nick

Hunting unicorns

A no nonsense guide on how to bag the elusive spare F (aka unicorn, aka hot single bisexual female) for your fantasy threesome and hunt solo or in pairs for the highest success rate.

Creepy wanky watchers

your partner(s) are getting down to business, clothing coming off and sex fantasies all ready to happen. 

Then, looming in from the shadows comes 'that guy'.  He's staring silently, looking like a supervillain's henchman, or smiling maniacally, all alone.  He's standing a little too close for comfort, cock in hand, stroking himself off to your frolics.

Couples’ profiles: what the single women see

So, you want to make a couples profile.  And why not?  Declare your intentions, do some universal ordering, and bag your goal, right?  

M vs F : Are sexually liberated women empowered or stigmatized?

In an age of new female sexual liberation, are women taking back their feminine power in their own eyes, and the eyes of men?  Or was granny onto something all along- that when you explore your sexuality as a woman, you will be judged for it by the opposite sex?

The stable and the freezer: new terms of modern dating everyone should be aware of

The stable and the freezer: new terms of modern dating everyone should be aware of

Unicorn interviews 6: The Poly Unicorn (extract)

to actively seek out a polyamorous unicorn right from the start, to love and cuddle and have that extra spicy excitement with from time to time?  Someone to bring into your relationship, a lovely extra addition to that which you already have?

Too good to be true? Tinder doesn’t get poly

Trying to mix the swing/poly world with vanilla people may have always been a bad idea. We made a joint profile on Tinder, for what one might imagine would be a fairly popular idea (BOGOF girlfriends? Instant threesome?). Unfortunately, nobody seems to understand it. Given the profile word limit, it's hard to be any more… Continue reading Too good to be true? Tinder doesn’t get poly

Blog to book

Organising your own party (extract)

Hosting is by no means a compulsory part of your evolution as a libertine or swinger, however it does often come up as an idea in the early to mid stages of your development.  With these issues in mind, you may be able to pull off a truly stunning event

Granting wishes

I'm getting ready to wrap this up with the final few chapters and go to print. If you have a story to share or an angle you are wishing this tome would cover, speak now and be a part of it. The best part of anything ever was to be part of a greater whole.… Continue reading Granting wishes

Really bad approaches

Couples and single guys, please note the calibre of your competition.

*Some have been recreated, but the conversations are all real, and are from myself and single girls I know personally.

Getting your partner to agree to a threesome (extract)

Threesomes: how to ask your partner? Basic approaches to use

Unicorn interviews 5: The BDSM unicorn (extract)

Interview with a BDSM & sex unicorn. Insight on swinging, approaches, pickup and how to catch one.